A toast to motherhood

26 Apr


This is my entry for the Indusladies Mother’s Day contest.

Yesterday, I was watching the movie ‘Marley and Me’ and Jennifer Aniston, a mom of three, says, “I cannot believe the amount of sacrifice I have made to become this person that I am not” or something to that effect.

This got me thinking about how true it was, it occurred to me that I had indeed given up so many things to become this person that I WAS NOT and the best part was that I hadnt even realized it!!

I remember last year, I was hoping to have my bundle of joy in my hands by Mother’s Day but it didnt happen as Jiya was in no hurry to leave her cozy place and now here I am one year later with this little monster raining chaos in my house and I cant get enough of her.

When the stork dropped her off, I remember the first question I asked my husband was if she had any hair, which I now realize was the dumbest thing I could have said at the “most beautiful moment of our life”. I also remember the day when I got my ultrasound at 20 weeks. Raghu was in Bangalore and I in California, so I decided to get a video tape of the baby swimming inside me so he could catch up on what he had missed. But I was terrified when I saw the images on the doctor’s screen. To me, the baby looked like E.T. and I reluctantly got the tape for Raghu but I swore never to watch it again, although I do think E.T. is cute in an alien sort of way. That night, I felt like a terrible human being – what kind of person compares their unborn child to an alien??

And then there were those nasty spells where everything was the baby’s fault(not to mention the husband) for e.g.

  • make me wear those disgusting maternity clothes
  • making me feel guilty for even glancing at those Mai Tais my friends were gulping down
  • lodging her limbs into my ribcage and thinking it was my idea of FUN
  • making me look fat and round(who cares about the motherhood glow nonsense!)
  • making me wear cheap flip flops instead of my designer high heels
  • giving me nightmares about going into labor in an airplane at 30,000 feet
  • making stange people want to touch my belly

Yeah, I’ve had my share of ups and downs, all right. So, did I turn out to be a terrible mom? I think not, I did just fine, I actually exceeded my own expectations. Thus far, Jiya has never ceased to surprise me and I am amazed that she manages to bring out the best and the worst in me and I understand the true meaning of my mom’s words, “You’ll know when you become a mom”. I want to give myself a pat on the back and to all the fellow moms out there.


And I know that this Mother’s Day, I want to raise a toast to myself, to motherhood and to my daughter and most importantly to my mother who is my role model for the biggest lesson of MOMMYHOOD.


9 Responses to “A toast to motherhood”

  1. Swaram April 26, 2009 at 8:17 am #

    All the best for the contest 🙂

  2. mommyghee April 26, 2009 at 12:33 pm #

    Where have you been shopping for maternity clothes? I love that there are so many fashionable maternity styles these days. I have some favorites that I still wear! I even have a tee-shirt that lets people know not to touch my belly-a must for every pregnant woman’s wardrobe. http://www.newmommyteesandjeans.com

  3. aparna April 26, 2009 at 6:05 pm #

    Hey Ashwini, nice post..loved the pic.. all the very best

    just wanted to tell you (my thought thatz all) that it would be a good idea to copy right all your picutures, they are so well shot.. esp the ones u shoot of the outdoors..

    • ashwinideo April 26, 2009 at 9:37 pm #

      Thanks for your suggestion, Aparna. I was considering doing a watermark and it certainly helps when someone actually points it out. Will be implementing it shortly.

  4. Mixedblessings89 April 26, 2009 at 9:24 pm #

    Hey 🙂

    Well, this is the first report of motherhood I have ever read that gives the bad and the good… no gushing, which is nice..

    I loved the Picture!

  5. Sourish April 27, 2009 at 9:50 pm #

    such a sweet and honest post…

    par ultrasound dekh k ET ???
    gosh !! u have the wildest iamgination..hhehehe

  6. Rashmi April 28, 2009 at 11:37 am #

    Nice post Ashwini.. Good Luck!!

  7. anjali May 18, 2009 at 5:14 am #

    beautifully written and a gorgeous picture of u and jiya..i second the copyright thought.. ur pics are very unique.. since most of them r jiya’s pics with u, u should have a mother daughter pic gallery …that way u can showcase them

    • ashwinideo May 18, 2009 at 10:34 am #

      Thats a great idea! Thanks, Anjali.

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